Self-Blame and the Power of Understanding
Hi everyone, This week, let's talk about something that can be a heavy burden to carry: self-blame. Often, it creeps in after difficult experiences, especially those involving abuse.
You might find yourself thinking things like, "I should have fought harder," "Why didn't I see it coming?" or "Maybe if I had done X, Y wouldn't have happened."
Here's the thing: it's natural to wonder "what if." But when those thoughts turn into harsh self-criticism, it can be painful and unproductive. Think of it like this: abusers are skilled at manipulation. They're like predators. They can sense vulnerability and exploit it for their own gain. They build trust, create confusion, and take advantage of someone's desire for connection or support.
Imagine yourself in a dark room. You feel alone and vulnerable. Suddenly, someone appears with a flashlight, offering light and guidance. Of course, you'd trust them, wouldn't you? But then, just as you let your guard down, they use that trust against you.
It's a terrible betrayal, but here's the key point: It's not your fault. You were seeking safety, and you were manipulated by someone who knew how to take advantage of your situation.
Here's a powerful truth :
Breaking free from self-blame starts with understanding the dynamics of abuse. It wasn't about your strength or weakness; it was about someone exploiting a vulnerable time in your life.
Remember, you are not alone. If you're struggling with self-blame or the aftermath of abuse, please know that there is help available. You can talk to a trusted friend, family member, or a therapist. There are people who care about you and want to support you on your healing journey.
A Message from a Therapist:
To any abuse survivors who still blame themselves for their trauma: You are strong, you are resilient, and most importantly, you are not to blame. The abuse you endured was a violation, and the shame belongs solely with the abuser. Healing is possible, and I am here to support you on that journey.
Here are some resources that can help:
National Sexual Assault Hotline
National Domestic Violence Hotline
National Child Abuse Hotline
Take care of yourselves,
Your Therapist
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